Why as an individual and not as a collective?

For as long as I can remember, I always have felt like the “odd person” in the group and the one that “stands out”.

I have been living up to, what I believed was other people's expectations. With living up to other people's expectations, I have felt like I've been placed into boxes that I can't fit into or doesn't belong to me. This is what I call, fake it until you make it.

As many of you know, in October I came out as non-binary. Since coming out as non-binary I have been thinking, is this really me, is this really who I am deep down inside? I've just recently came to the conclusion that I use the pronouns they and them, but I don't identify as someone who is nonbinary.

So, what does this mean to me?

It means that I no longer live in boxes that other people put me inside. When people create a box for me, I feel like I'm living up to their expectation, rather than living my own.

I'm a woman, but I identify as an individual, and a person on this diverse planet.

I feel like the she/her pronouns aren't relatable to me, so I know use they, them, and theirs.


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Beyond the Gender Binary by Alock Vaid-Menon

Alock Vaid-Menon explores their non-binary journey through this memoir, Beyond the Gender Binary which they published in June of 2020.

“Society's inability to place us in boxes make the uncomfortable; the unfamiliar becomes a threat an not an opportunity. The unknown calls into question everything that we thought we knew about ourselves and the world. and this … this is a good thing! Being self-reflective and open to transformation is something we should celebrate, not fear.”

- Alock Vaid-Menon

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Pet by Awkaea Emezi

Akwaea Emezi wrote a book about Jam, a trans black girl who lives in Lucille in the US. It is said to believe that there isn't any more monsters in Lucille, Pet and Jam go on an adventure to hunt these monsters and find out How they save the world from monsters if no one will admit they exist?

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In Their Shoes: Navigating Non-Binary Life

There is no one way to be non-binary. Jamie Windust explores everything from dating, mental health work, family and relationships to fashion and work. They show you how to navigate the world through self-acceptance, self-celebration, and self-appreciation.

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